People can raise funds for Fathers Day, for Ramadaan Celebration but can’t help someone in real need. Wierd World isn’t it?
Recently I created this page https://www.mightycause.com/story/Pcpztf
I really want to ask for help. I want to request for donation to help a friend in need but I feel ashamed, because I don’t know how people may feel.
I seldom write personal or emotional posts which has anything to do with me. Recently, one of my very close friend Mr. X (name changed for privacy) started facing an issue. I’ll give a brief intro about him. He is from Haryana, India and has moved to another state Gujarat, India for business purpose in 2019. He lived in a rented apartment and took a place on rent for work as well. All was well until the lockdown.
When lockdown started in India in middle of March, overnight everything had closed. His business was closed down. Still with whatever he had, he helped his workers, he fed them. Now, with all these charity he had been doing he could not pay his rent of his work place and of the appartment where he was living with his brother.
I was not aware of it. I came back to my home in Mumbai on 17th May 2020. On 25th May I got a call from him asking me if there was any place I knew where he can give his car for mortgage in return for some money, he had his pride to not ask me for any monetary help. I gave him all the contacts I had but later on I got to know that no one helped due to the lockdown.
He did not contact me for a week after that, so I did not know what exactly was going on. A week later I got call from Mr. X’s brother asking me if I knew any place from where they can get some loan. I had a weird feeling, I demanded to talk to Mr X. I got to know that his car has been confiscated by the people where he had his office, reason he had no earnings due to which he could not pay his rent for the office.
I knew no one could help due to the uprising issues like cyclone and etc. in India and then covid-19 lockdown issue was a cherry on the cake, so I did not promise anything.
On 9th June 2020 at 6pm IST, I got a call again from him. I got to know that their landlord had thrown him out of the house but has confiscated all his belongings, his clothes, laptop, documents everything. As he was NOT a LOCALITE there, no one supported him. They had nowhere to stay.
I spoke to a friend and arranged his living there but my friend told me he can give accommodation only for a week. He moved there. Now the landlord and his goons found him there too and this time they took away his phone. Luckily his brother hid his phone.
He couldn’t go back home. So I created https://www.mightycause.com/story/Pcpztf page on 10th June so with the feeling that if anyone could help, because the amount he requires is huge but even $400-$500 would have been enough to at least earn him some time and get his things.
I am far enough to reach there. Financially I did what I could but I donate a lot due to which even my funds are limited now.
I approached almost every friend in my contact list, in my facebook friendlist to share this link. I was astonished with the outcome. People who used to come to me calling me their friend had simply vanished. Except Elizabeth Obih-Frank from Mirth and Motivation , Karen Monica from karenmonica.com , Dalene Ekirapa of Dal meets Glam and 2 or 3 friends no one even approached to ask the issue.
I even posted in a particular group where I had donated so many times, there I was called a scammer. I am still wondering where did I go wrong. I dont know how to ask for help because I have never in my life asked this type of help earlier. This is my first time.
I understand, globally the condition is not good but you know at least sharing something or saying kind words help to ease the pain.
I have not been able to raise any amount till now, I do not know what is going to happen next.
But one thing what people need to understand is ‘Kind words do not harm’.
This page is still active. I am not going to ask for any help because I don’t want anyone to call me something which I am not.
I am so sorry for your friend and sorry that people called you a scammer for trying to help. I hope that worldwide things start getting better soon. This has been way too hard on too many people.
Saying thank you, being grateful is the first step in recognizing the beauty of our lives and sharing it.
Oh man I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. That’s horrible. I hope things start looking up for him soon.
It makes me sad that things like this happen. In my country, you are given a grace period to pay rent, or you can even pay it in installments once you are able to start work again. I hope your friend will be able to get over his dilemma and start his business again.
Kind words are free to use but I don’t know why is it so hard for some to give, sigh. still hoping for a better future though
I am sorry it happened to him at all. I have shared his story and I hope it will end up the best way possible. People are kind.
I have lost faith on human kind after the last incident.
It’s nice and kind of you to seek to help a friend. What really matters is the clearness of your purpose, not what others say. I wish you and your friend all the best.
Sending you and your friend so many positive thoughts and good vibes. I hope everything will be okay for your friend.
I am sorry about this and it’s kind to help a friend. I do hope everything will work out.
I’m so sorry that he’s been hit so hard by this. COVID has impacted everyone, but it sounds like it’s really hit him badly. I hope the fundraising goes well, and he gets back on his feet soon.
Oh, man. Life has really dealt a bad hand to him lately. I really hope he can get back on his feet soon. You’re a good friend to share his story and try to get him help.
of all people I know, you are not a scammer for sure. Like everyone even I am hopeless on the financial front on this day.
But trust me, with your honest intentions, help is coming soon .
hang on, stay strong.
Thanks yaar. Thanks…
So sad. This pandemic has dealt a blow on millions of people and everyone has to cut their cloth according to size. I pray things get better for him.
These are tough times for many. It can be hard for people to loan or give money to others.
Felt sorry over your friend..it was quite heart touching and impressive…
In so sorry this happened to your friend and hope life gets better for you all.
I think what you’re doing for him is amazing. It’s often so hard for us to ask for help, even when we really need it. Stepping up like this is a wonderful thing to do for him.
This is such a sad situation, but thank you for taking the time to share. Hopefully someone out there can get him the help that he and so many need. Praying that it gets better for him soon.
I am so sorry this happened to him, this is awful! I really hope things get better for him and things will for sure!!!
Sending you all the good thoughts.. We really do live in the strangest of worlds…
I know what it is like to desperately want to help a friend and not know how to go about it. Bless you for doing what you can for him and to better his situation. I’m sorry that people had to be so mean.
Jeez that is so awful. So sorry to hear you had to deal with this
I’m sorry to hear about your friend! I hope things get better soon for him!
I’m so sorry for your friend. So many people are struggling right now. Good for you for trying to help him.
I’m so sorry this happened to you and your friend! Thank you for sharing your perspective!
I’m so sorry about your friend. It’s a sad story but things will get better. Thank you for sharing your story.
So sad to learn about this, I hope everything will be alright soon.
That’s a really wonderful idea to help your friends in need! I hope that everything will work out well! 🙂
I am so sorry for your friend. I do hope that it gets better for both of you.
I’m sorry to hear about your friend. I hope that he gets the help that he needs.
I am so sorry to hear about your friend, I really hope you get the help he needs. It can be really difficult putting yourself out there and asking for help, well done for doing that on behalf of your friend.
oh wow. your friend’s story is so tough to read and hear. he definitely represents so many who’ve struggled over the last few months. stay strong and safe.
What are his qualifications? I am sorry to be practical, we need to try to get him some earnings. Donations you will not be able to obtain easily. In fact, it will freeze one day. We can discuss if you want, can see how he can be helped.
Business tha.. Uska jo donation h, uske samaan niklwa k ghar jaane k h… haa, loan I thought but he has nothing to put on mortagage… Sab dekh lia maine… Post pura padho di, sb likha h..
That’s so unfortunate. I wish your friend well. I’ll look into this.
It is wonderful that you are helping your friend out! It is sad that people don’t see the truth behind their actions.
Oh my gosh I am super sorry to hear about your friend, but at least they have you there to help them x
What an emotional post. My mom always tell me to do good, and she also reminds me that people may judge my actions no matter how pure my intention is. So my motto do good and let it be.
I am sorry for your friend. Hope things will be better for him soon and I salute you for being a good friend during this low points. Stay strong.
You have such a big big heart. There are very few people that would do that. I hope God blesses you a million time more.
Such a sad story. I am sure it will get better. Stay positive.
That really sucks that you have had to go through this or be called mean things when your just trying to help someone! That isn’t fair for you to experience and I agree if you can’t be kind then best say nothing. Your a good person don’t forget that
Laura x