Types of People You Should Stay Away From

In life, we come across different types of people. Some are good, some not so much. But there are a few types that are really not good for us, especially for our mental well-being. Here are three types you should definitely avoid:

1. The Manipulator: These people are quite tricky. They’re really good at trying to control you, even if they might act like they’re helping you. Manipulators are like experts at pushing your buttons and making you do things their way. You can tell when someone is a manipulator if they always try to convince you to do things exactly how they want. It’s important to not let them take over your life.

2. The Self-Claimed Victims: These folks always talk about how everything bad happens to them, as if they’re the only ones with problems. They might make you feel like they need your sympathy all the time. But being around them too much can be bad for you. They often want others to agree with them, and it can be hard to know when to be supportive and when to set boundaries.

3. The Underminers: Now, these people are really not nice. They act like they care about you but then say hurtful things that bring you down. They might act like they’re helping, but really, they want to see you fail or feel bad. They don’t appreciate your achievements and can make you doubt yourself. It’s a big mistake to let them into your life.

Remember, during our life journey, we meet all sorts of people. These three types are quite common. So, it’s a good idea to protect yourself from them to keep your peace of mind.

If you think there’s anyone else we should add to this list, feel free to share your thoughts. Take care and stay safe until we chat again!

109 thoughts on “Types of People You Should Stay Away From”

  1. This good advice to stay away from this kind of negative people. I don’t like associating with these kinds of people. I have had to cut out a few of these type of people from my life.

  2. I think we should identify if these people would be good if we stay with them or not. I think it’s also nice to get rid of toxic people, no matter how close you are with each other. Not cutting them off completely, but changing the people surrounding you.

  3. The people we hang around with determine who we are. Sometimes it is the best thing to walk away from some people undermining your values or dreams. Thanks for such a good post.

  4. This is such a great post! I couldn’t agree more that weeding some people out of your life is vital to keeping happy and successful.

  5. I know a lot of victims and it is sad because they become someone who is always crying for help. Manipulators are the worst kind of people because they bend things for their own gain.

  6. I hate underminers. Manipulators are easy to get rid off. I generally give attention to self-claimed victims but some of them act like a victim for useless reasons which is really annoying.

  7. I would be surprised if we haven’t all experienced each of these types of people. Hopefully people recognize them early enough not to get sucked into the drama and stress of spending time with them.

  8. I completely and totally agree, manipulative people are like quicksand! In order for you to live a positive and productive life you have to surround yourself with people that build you up and not tear you down!

  9. I agree in some point but on the other hand, who will help them? Still finding ways to influence them is a better option. But if you really can’t then yes, do these things

  10. These kind of people are on my ignore list. The people who don’t value you or your time don’t deserve your time or attention.

  11. I have definitely had all three in my life. And it’s worse when they are people you have to work with and so you cannot entirely avoid them. Just do the best you can to keep a distance.

  12. Fortunately, I don’t surround myself with any of these types of people. But I have had experiences with the “self proclaimed victim” type and they can be quite annoying. The best way to deal with them is to just be straight up and tell him that no one is out to get them because they aren’t special — give them some perspective, lol.

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  13. I have met some of these people! The most tiring for me are the victims. The constant poormouthing and requests for help even when no help is needed — it just makes me tired. Thanks for sharing!

  14. You’re right! I’ve met all these three kinds of people but hey, none of them had their way around me. It’s always important to know oneself and how to deal in such scenarios to avoid being caught in between their deeds.

  15. I think it’s very hard to see when someone you care about is manipulating you. I am actually watching a series at the moment on Netflix which was inspired by real life events. It’s called Dirty Pete and it treats exactly this, how people who love someone can’t see their bad sides.

  16. Unfortunately, all three types are in my life. I agree they all have a negative impact on me and I would benefit by removing them from my life.

  17. There are so many kinds of toxic people, and it’s good to be able to clean your life of them. It really does make a difference when you don’t have people in your life dragging you down.

  18. It was great advice. You gave us all the perfect list of what we should be avoided. I hate them so much and as much as possible I’d stay positive even if I am surrounded by them.

  19. You won’t believe I have such type of person in the family and this person has all of the above qualities. Sometimes I feel so tense and gloom. I have my own busy life and I can’t tolerate daily dramas so I try to avoid her. It is like you shared this post just for me so thank you for sharing this one.

  20. Oh, gosh. AMEN! I try my best to avoid these types of people. So far, I’ve been very successful weeding out The Manipulors. The Self-Victim and Underminer – not so much, especially since they’re the same person and I work with them. It’s tiresome, but at least I don’t have to go home to them afterwards 🙂 Great post!

  21. are not good enough for you, you just don’t need them, stay away. Manipulators are the worst in the list as I think. One more masterpiece of your, I do love your blog

  22. This is great list of people who shouldn’t be present in your life. I have very few people who are close to me and part of my life. I tend to eliminate people who influence me in wrong way

  23. Good summary – in my humble opinion, the self-claim victims are the worst. While you can be careful with manipulators and undermines, but the victims – no matter what you say, they are always the poorest…

  24. As a Christian, I would never make a decision to stay away from any “type” of person. Rather, I’d pray for Jesus’ intervention and guidance in that relationship and He never disappoints.

  25. We all have these people in our lives at some time. The key to a balanced life is recognizing them before they have an opportunity to intertwine their manipulative behaviour into our lives. This allows us to keep control of us and not them. Great information.

  26. All of these types of people are totally toxic. Personally I can’t stand “victims” who always have something wrong and want to take you down with them. It’s important to keep people like this far away.

  27. Kristine Nicole Alessandra

    I have these kinds of people in my life and guess what? I can’t get rid of them because they are family! When they start acting up, I just “grin and bear it” and move on with my life.

  28. I’m with you on this, especially the underminers. I used to have a friend who does this to me. Little did I know it’s a way for them to feel good about themselves. I learnt the hard way. Bit I’m glad I’ve completely cut her off.

  29. Annemarie LeBlanc

    I had the experience of having an underminer in my life before. Well, that was in a corporate setting. How stressful it was to have to deal with her every single working hour. I quit that job and was fortunate to have found a job with a healthy working environment and a better pay rate!

  30. We meet a different kind of people I must say that we should ignore people who didn’t give you encourage and lack of support I agree to this post 🙂 Mental health is very important.

  31. I totally agree with this list especially the manipulator. Relationship with these people are draining as they tend to abuse or use you. They mess up your life’s perspective.

  32. I am the type of person that can deal with all kinds of all people except these attitudes. It was a piece of great advice.

  33. Underminers are the worst, because you think they are really your friends. Your self-confidence can be destroyed before you free yourself from an underminer.

  34. I can honestly say, I am NOT any of these people. But I have encountered them for sure. And I feel like they don’t even realize that they have that power. They’ve been dysfunctional for so long it’s just embedded in them. Sad!

  35. I don’t know it maybe speaks a lot about me, but I like meeting people that fall in some of those categories, I had some run in with every person on that list, some were good, others were bad, but it made me who I am today, it made me be able to read the person and see what he is, why do I like to meet them because I can show the manipulator that he cannot manipulate me instead cut him right off at the start, to show the self proclaimed victims that when they start to say how they have no luck in some aspects to make them realize that unless they work for something nothing will be given to them for free, and the undermines I like them a lot, they make me continue forward, I work best when someone tires to tell me that I cannot do something or that I won’t succeed, they give me motivation 😀

  36. This is a great advice. The post remind me of a lady I met sometime three years back, she has all these attitudes, but I thank God for separating us, she is so mean

  37. I agree some people are kind in the beginning so we need to be careful and choose someone you can trust. Manipulators are worst, I think.

  38. True indeed, the MANIPULATOR has got to be the most difficult of all. Truly, they are experts of controlling their victims. They know who is weak and who is not. Manipulators somehow smell your weaknesses, so do yourself a favor, when you see one – AVOID!

  39. Well said! I’ve had my fair share of these toxic types and it’s true, they need to be cut out of your life because otherwise their toxicity and negativity will pull you down with them. It may be hard but sometimes you have to let go and do what’s right for you.

  40. you are right, we should maintain distance from such people. any kind of negativity will only ruin the relationships and our peace too. your post is well written and straightforward.

  41. So interesting that you mention self victims as the second type of toxic person to stay away from, they fly under the radar but can be seriously draining!

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