There are many kinds of people whom we meet at points of our life. Some are good, some are not. But there are some kinds of people among all those who are absolutely not good for us. They obviously affect our mental health. Here are three types of people one should stay away from.
The Manipulator: These people are the most difficult of all. They are experts of control, in spite of the fact that they presumably believe they’re uber-useful. Manipulators are ace catch pushers who will go after your weaknesses to inspire you to fall into line. You can spot controllers immediately when you understand they’re typically endeavoring to persuade you regarding something that they need you to do, on their terms. Abstain from surrendering control in your life to one of these.
The Self-Claimed Victims: These people keep on claiming how this or that had happened to them and they do not have good luck. It is like as if they are the only ones who have issues and others do not have troubles in their lives. Sooner or later, being around this kind of consistent “poor me” will end up perilous to your prosperity. Unfortunate casualties are regularly searching for others to approve their sentiments and it tends to be a tricky incline between being caring and steady and acknowledging you ought to have defined a few limits.
The Underminers: These are the type of people who absolutely are disgusting. If you personally ask me I can handle a manipulator rather than have these sorts of people around me. Let me tell you why. Do you realize that individual who professes to be your well-wisher yet dependably has a sharp comment that brings you down? Stowing away under the appearance of being your ally, the underminer enjoys incredible telling you your deficiencies, quirks, and oversights. Your abilities and victories? They’re not as fascinating. What the underminer needs is to feel great when others come up short or believe they’re coming up short. Enormous slip-up to permit one of these into your life.
See, in the journey of life, we meet various kinds of people. These three types of people you find in maximum cases. So try to stay safe from these people to save your sanity…
Did I miss out on any or any kind of person you would like to add here on the list? Let me know in the comments. So I will end it here now. See you soon again. Till then Stay safe and Take care.
Sarah Bailey says
This is a great rundown of people who you should try and stay away from. We definitely need to make sure we try and keep away from the people who drag us down in life.
Cristina Petrini says
Excellent advice. Excellent examination of something that we should all understand before it’s too late!
Amy-Lynn Denham says
YUP! and the one-uppers (all they do is make us feel bad for feeling bad or feel bad for feeling good, etc.) Just stick with people who lift you up and be the person who lifts others up!
Sneha Surana says
Gosh i have witnessed all these kinds of people in my life!! But after reading your blog, it gives me inspiration to not atleast do that in the future!!
Kristine Archaia says
Correct, this is so true, we should definitely stay away from all these kind of people, but guessing them is the hardest part!
Amber Myers says
Yup, I do try to avoid these people. I don’t have the patience for them as I get older.
Jessica Martin says
This good advice to stay away from this kind of negative people. I don’t like associating with these kinds of people. I have had to cut out a few of these type of people from my life.
Nabanita Dhar says
True, very true.
There are very few people who actually want your betterment. So better to listen to your heart and stay away from such people.
Reika Misaki says
I think we should identify if these people would be good if we stay with them or not. I think it’s also nice to get rid of toxic people, no matter how close you are with each other. Not cutting them off completely, but changing the people surrounding you.
Alvern @ Success Unscrambled says
Thanks for letting me know the kind of people that I should stay away from altogether. They were well classified.
John Mulindi says
The people we hang around with determine who we are. Sometimes it is the best thing to walk away from some people undermining your values or dreams. Thanks for such a good post.
What Corinne Did says
I have had all 3 in my life and it took me some time to cut them off. But oh god have i felt better ever since!
Alexandra Cook says
This is such a great post! I couldn’t agree more that weeding some people out of your life is vital to keeping happy and successful.
I know a lot of victims and it is sad because they become someone who is always crying for help. Manipulators are the worst kind of people because they bend things for their own gain.
Wow! Sounds like my mother. That is why I don’t want to reconcile with her. I know she will just repeat the cycle of abuse.
I hate underminers. Manipulators are easy to get rid off. I generally give attention to self-claimed victims but some of them act like a victim for useless reasons which is really annoying.
Emily Fata says
Yup, I’ve come up with a list as well, as I’ve been making my way through life. The underminers are some of the worst kinds of people!
I would be surprised if we haven’t all experienced each of these types of people. Hopefully people recognize them early enough not to get sucked into the drama and stress of spending time with them.
ahh your post! Love it!!! And i can’t agree more, for me the underminers are the worst! I had to cut off a bunch of so-called friends that I felt they were putting me down only because they were jealous. Can’t stand them!
I completely and totally agree, manipulative people are like quicksand! In order for you to live a positive and productive life you have to surround yourself with people that build you up and not tear you down!
Peachy @ The Peach Kitchen says
I totally agree with you on this list of people. I don’t like manipulators because they suck the life out of you.
I agree with everything that you’ve discussed in this post. Toxic people are not worth your time, so rid yourself of them as soon as you can.
OH yes! This is a very good list of people to stay away from. I just walked or ran really away from a toxic person who fits into many lists …
I agree in some point but on the other hand, who will help them? Still finding ways to influence them is a better option. But if you really can’t then yes, do these things
Shannan P says
I think we’ve all had a few of these in our lives, now and then. Ridding yourself of toxic people is so important to your own mental health!
Jasmeet Singh says
These kind of people are on my ignore list. The people who don’t value you or your time don’t deserve your time or attention.
David Elliott says
I have definitely had all three in my life. And it’s worse when they are people you have to work with and so you cannot entirely avoid them. Just do the best you can to keep a distance.
Oh to Be a Muse says
Fortunately, I don’t surround myself with any of these types of people. But I have had experiences with the “self proclaimed victim” type and they can be quite annoying. The best way to deal with them is to just be straight up and tell him that no one is out to get them because they aren’t special — give them some perspective, lol.
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It’s hard to weed out the bad influences from your life but so important to get up the courage to do so. Great post and so true!
Tara Pittman says
Lots of people to stay away from. People can bring you down if you are not careful.
Explore The 6 says
Great advice. We should definitely stay away from all these kind of people, and if they are in our life now we should evaluate 🙂
Great list! Manipulation and playing the victim are two of the worst, draining and annoying behaviors
Is it possible that you named one person in my life that fits every single category? It’s probably the reason we haven’t spoken in so long.
Yes it is possible. And same for me as well. I know a particular person who fits in all these categories.
Dominique Brooks says
I have met some of these people! The most tiring for me are the victims. The constant poormouthing and requests for help even when no help is needed — it just makes me tired. Thanks for sharing!
Dominique Brooks says
The victims are the most difficult for me. They weigh on you with how pitiful they are. The other two are difficult too but the victims can be the worst!
Dalene Ekirapa says
You’re right! I’ve met all these three kinds of people but hey, none of them had their way around me. It’s always important to know oneself and how to deal in such scenarios to avoid being caught in between their deeds.
It’s tough to find a balance between helping someone and being influenced by them. Thanks for sharing some warnings to look for in relationships
Insightful article indeed. Never identified or recognized people on such categories but your tips are worthy to be tried and applied.
Great advise and warning too. I am highly allergic to these kind of people. I love such blogs. Thanks for sharing
Angela Bethea says
Yes I think the worst kind for me is the Underminer. The sad part is they are the one who you treated as a good friend but they secretly backstabbed you.
I think it’s very hard to see when someone you care about is manipulating you. I am actually watching a series at the moment on Netflix which was inspired by real life events. It’s called Dirty Pete and it treats exactly this, how people who love someone can’t see their bad sides.
Great post! It can be really hard to identify toxic people. Specially when they are family members or close friends. But we need to avoid being around them for sure.
I avoid these people. I can’t deal with all the drama and confusion that comes with dealing with them.
Unfortunately, all three types are in my life. I agree they all have a negative impact on me and I would benefit by removing them from my life.
Kim Seghers says
Great advice! I have met many people like all three you have mentioned. I have some close relatives that are underminers I try to stay away from them!
Sincerely Miss J says
Great post and needed for a lot of people. Excellent advice.
We have a few people like this in my own family. Some people are just too toxic to be around-family or not. Good tips.
There are so many kinds of toxic people, and it’s good to be able to clean your life of them. It really does make a difference when you don’t have people in your life dragging you down.
I think that anyone who drains you of your energy and does not bring you joy, you should stay away from. These people definitely fall into this category.
What a great post. I think with this post, I can identify toxic people more easily.
Shannon Gurnee says
This is some great advice. Thanks for sharing this blog post.
It was great advice. You gave us all the perfect list of what we should be avoided. I hate them so much and as much as possible I’d stay positive even if I am surrounded by them.
Elizabeth O says
You won’t believe I have such type of person in the family and this person has all of the above qualities. Sometimes I feel so tense and gloom. I have my own busy life and I can’t tolerate daily dramas so I try to avoid her. It is like you shared this post just for me so thank you for sharing this one.
Cass Bailey says
I try and avoid spending time with anyone who doesn’t support me or make me happy to be with them. There are so many people who bring you down in one way or another x x
Fatima Torres says
Manipulators aren’t the best to be around. You’d be surprised how many people fall under that category — family included.
One of the hardest things in life is interacting with people that are different than us. We can show them love even if they have heavy faults.
Oh, gosh. AMEN! I try my best to avoid these types of people. So far, I’ve been very successful weeding out The Manipulors. The Self-Victim and Underminer – not so much, especially since they’re the same person and I work with them. It’s tiresome, but at least I don’t have to go home to them afterwards 🙂 Great post!
are not good enough for you, you just don’t need them, stay away. Manipulators are the worst in the list as I think. One more masterpiece of your, I do love your blog
Laura G says
Oh yes… the self-claimed victims who can only talk about themselves… they can require so much energy, which could be better spent else where!
Oh heck yes. I’ve known all of these types in my life and they’re definitely the kind of people that you want to steer clear of.
Nina Nichols says
YOU NAILED IT! These are all negative people that you must stay away from! It’s not worth to be associated with them!
Pooja Shama says
This is great list of people who shouldn’t be present in your life. I have very few people who are close to me and part of my life. I tend to eliminate people who influence me in wrong way
Good summary – in my humble opinion, the self-claim victims are the worst. While you can be careful with manipulators and undermines, but the victims – no matter what you say, they are always the poorest…
I agree don’t want such people around me! Don’t like people who just make it about themself!
Nice informative article
Renata Feyen says
I agree that it is good to stay away from people that have a negative effect on you 🙂
I totally agree with you! Excellent advices !
I realize that I have quite a few people like this in my life.
Rachel Lavern says
As a Christian, I would never make a decision to stay away from any “type” of person. Rather, I’d pray for Jesus’ intervention and guidance in that relationship and He never disappoints.
The Self-Claimed Victims get on my nerves, simply hate them.
Jena Leigh | Naughty Kitchen says
I agree with you 100%. Every time i meet someone i usually hold a 5 minute conversation and end it. I think I have have converted some what of an introvert as i grow older lol.
Christopher Mitchell says
Yeah, it’s definitely best to avoid people like that!
Great advice! Thos victim people ughhhh sucking all the energy out ouf you and then making you feel bad for it! No way!
We all have these people in our lives at some time. The key to a balanced life is recognizing them before they have an opportunity to intertwine their manipulative behaviour into our lives. This allows us to keep control of us and not them. Great information.
Megan Kerry says
Ugh, the self claimed victim….such an energy sucker! I steer clear all the time-I have a natural aversion to these folks lol!!
Arianne p says
I have a toxic mother and she is the victim in every single situation. It’s tiring. I don’t think I could ever befriend someone with that trait
Melanie Frost says
All of these types of people are totally toxic. Personally I can’t stand “victims” who always have something wrong and want to take you down with them. It’s important to keep people like this far away.
Kristine Nicole Alessandra says
I have these kinds of people in my life and guess what? I can’t get rid of them because they are family! When they start acting up, I just “grin and bear it” and move on with my life.
the underminers are the worssttt!! I try to stay as far away from them as I can!
Lydia Smith says
I’m with you on this, especially the underminers. I used to have a friend who does this to me. Little did I know it’s a way for them to feel good about themselves. I learnt the hard way. Bit I’m glad I’ve completely cut her off.
Annemarie LeBlanc says
I had the experience of having an underminer in my life before. Well, that was in a corporate setting. How stressful it was to have to deal with her every single working hour. I quit that job and was fortunate to have found a job with a healthy working environment and a better pay rate!
Keshia Richmond says
Great information on people we should not keep company with.
I agree with you. I can not stand an undermined! At least with a manipulator you know what you are going in to! Great perspective
Sincerely Miss J says
I agree, with your list of people that you should stay away from especially manipulator.
Indeed and very well written! It takes experience to know and be aware. Thanks for the encouragement!
Julie Plagens says
There are a few people I know like this. I try to stay away from them. Unfortunately, a couple of them are family!
I agree. Energy is contagious. Choose wisely.
We meet a different kind of people I must say that we should ignore people who didn’t give you encourage and lack of support I agree to this post 🙂 Mental health is very important.
I totally agree with this list especially the manipulator. Relationship with these people are draining as they tend to abuse or use you. They mess up your life’s perspective.
Kyanne Mader says
This is a very interesting read. I agree we meet all kinds of people that are not necessarily good for us.
Clare Minall says
I am the type of person that can deal with all kinds of all people except these attitudes. It was a piece of great advice.
This was a great post! I truly believe they’re certain people we should avoid in life to maintain our sanity. Toxic people bring toxic energy.
Tracy C says
Underminers are the worst, because you think they are really your friends. Your self-confidence can be destroyed before you free yourself from an underminer.
I can honestly say, I am NOT any of these people. But I have encountered them for sure. And I feel like they don’t even realize that they have that power. They’ve been dysfunctional for so long it’s just embedded in them. Sad!
Matija Antonić says
I don’t know it maybe speaks a lot about me, but I like meeting people that fall in some of those categories, I had some run in with every person on that list, some were good, others were bad, but it made me who I am today, it made me be able to read the person and see what he is, why do I like to meet them because I can show the manipulator that he cannot manipulate me instead cut him right off at the start, to show the self proclaimed victims that when they start to say how they have no luck in some aspects to make them realize that unless they work for something nothing will be given to them for free, and the undermines I like them a lot, they make me continue forward, I work best when someone tires to tell me that I cannot do something or that I won’t succeed, they give me motivation 😀
This is a great advice. The post remind me of a lady I met sometime three years back, she has all these attitudes, but I thank God for separating us, she is so mean
I agree some people are kind in the beginning so we need to be careful and choose someone you can trust. Manipulators are worst, I think.
Sania Ahmed says
Ohhh i hate people who love to show-off and those who are negative… they just ruin your mind.
Sheena Moncatar says
True indeed, the MANIPULATOR has got to be the most difficult of all. Truly, they are experts of controlling their victims. They know who is weak and who is not. Manipulators somehow smell your weaknesses, so do yourself a favor, when you see one – AVOID!
Well said! I’ve had my fair share of these toxic types and it’s true, they need to be cut out of your life because otherwise their toxicity and negativity will pull you down with them. It may be hard but sometimes you have to let go and do what’s right for you.
Ara Patria Cajigal says
Very well said! This is indeed one of the relevant articles that I’ve read about types of people. Nowadays, toxic people seem to be quite inevitable, but we have to deal with them at times.
Elizabeth O says
you are right, we should maintain distance from such people. any kind of negativity will only ruin the relationships and our peace too. your post is well written and straightforward.
i have had several encounters with the underminers. frustrating to say the least
So interesting that you mention self victims as the second type of toxic person to stay away from, they fly under the radar but can be seriously draining!
What Corinne Did says
Very often all three are combined into one person. I know a friend of mine who leaves with such individual and oh god it is hard!
Trina Welch says
Great to know what to watch for.
Erik and Kate says
The underminer is the worst!! We had one too many of those in our lives!! Good read Moni!!
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