Emotional control can happen in relationships more often than we might realize. It doesn’t just happen in obviously harsh relationships, but even in seemingly smaller ways. For instance, your partner might always want things their way when you’re together. Sometimes, it can be more serious, like making you doubt your own memories.
Here are some signs I’ve noticed:
1. They might say, “If you really loved me,” to get what they want.
2. They act like the victim and blame you for things.
3. They try to provoke you when they think you’re catching on to their behavior.
4. They might even threaten to harm themselves, which can be really intense and overwhelming.
5. They make you feel like you owe them something for what they’ve done.
6. When you point out their mistakes, they say you’re overreacting.
7. They might call you oversensitive or selfish when you stand up for yourself.
8. If things don’t go their way, they raise their voice or make a scene.
9. They rarely have anything positive to say and criticize you constantly.
10. When they’re done with the relationship, they use your vulnerabilities against you.
I’ve been thinking about writing this for a while, and I got more motivated after watching a video by Dr. Antonio Borrello, a popular YouTuber who talks about dating and relationships. His videos are really informative and based on research. You can find him on YouTube by searching for Antonio Borrello.