Many of us have been through bad relationships. Some had dated narcissists and some had dated psychopaths and some had dated normal people but the relationship became toxic. Today here we will talk about the relationships with narcissists and psychopaths. First of all, let me tell you, these people are not at all perfect for relationships. These individuals are not your ordinary accomplice. They suffer from trauma deeper than anyone can only imagine. Consequently, being involved with a narcissist or a sociopath will definitely exchange their sufferings to you. Such a relationship crushes you from inside and, when you have acknowledged what harm has been done, it’s past the point where it is possible to leave. Be that as it may, it doesn’t mean you can’t return to your earlier self – you can, however, it requires a lot of exertion!
Let me be honest, I have been with both kind of people, a psychopath and a narcissist, I lost myself with time. I was so afraid of meeting new people that I used to push them away. I told people that I’m a sociopath (they believed it. Lol) until I met the right man recently. As I have from my past experiences I have jotted the issues which I had faced, and some I face till now.
But before I start putting up the points let me tell you that it is not easy to recognize the toxic or harmful relationship they are persevering until the point that their limit. Envision remaining in a relationship where you are persuaded that you would be hopeless without the other. You are constantly blameworthy of something, you are being disgraced and called awkward– all the pessimism which nobody merits. What they make you feel lives profound inside you and can have a consistently enduring effect.
So here is how you will feel even when you have been successful in drifting apart from your narcissistic partner.
Unable to trust
When you extraordinarily trust somebody and that trust breaks, you think that it is difficult to return to that equivalent dimension of trust. This doubt reaches out past the individual who caused it – you end up dubious of nearly everybody around you.
Incapable to Love
No one loves being utilized. It feels dreadful acknowledging you have been there for somebody through various challenges, however, the sum total of what they have been doing is utilizing you to support their inner self and narcissism. It is the thing that happens when you are involved with narcissistic individuals – they make it seem as though it is your inadequacy which divided them. You don’t feel sufficient and always feel like you don’t merit anybody’s affection or time. Also, when you feel so terrible about your own-self, how might you like others and discover them loveable?
Feeling Empty from Inside
When you have been enamored with somebody, you feel a void inside yourself when you separation. It’s as though you have given a bit of yourself to another person. In this way, when you are involved with a narcissist and give them all that you can, you would feel extremely void. In spite of knowing the way that the person was harmful, you would miss him since you were genuine with him from the beginning. You would feel like in the event that you begin another relationship, you would wind up nevertheless.
But as time passes you will learn some new things too.
Time is the best healer
Nothing changes medium-term and an effect as extreme as the one a narcissist will abandon, it will request a massive measure of time before things return to ordinary. You should stay ardent and enable yourself to dispose of the poisonous quality that the past relationship drew on you. Your mind should be available to changes and grasp the way that all the awful stuff is previously and you have to proceed onward.
Figure out how to love yourself once more
Keep in mind, mending begins from self-esteem. It is presumably the best of remedies for everything, particularly to feel commendable. Just when you cherish yourself will you have the capacity to adore others? You have to deal with yourself first and after that consider others. It will resemble finding yourself once more!
Believe in yourself
Since a narcissist or psychopath would make you feel terrible about your own self and contemptible, you should trust in yourself. You should think about the way that you endure a staggering relationship and that you are sufficiently able to persevere through these occasions. Maybe you will turn out more grounded and stronger than at any other time. The key is to have confidence in your own quality.
Remember one thing, even though it might seem as if it is the end of the world, and you will not be the same person again. But remember that it is all a part of life and now at least you away from danger.
I guess that’s enough from my side for today, see you soon again.
I have had my fair share of toxic relationships. While they were hurtful, I appreciate them all because they led me to my husband and to a loving, healthy relationship of over 13 years. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.
Georgia Boanoro says
This is such a sensitive topic, I love the way you are writing about it!
Time is definitely the best dealer when it comes to healing a broken heart. Love your tips here.
Dalene Ekirapa says
Heartbreaks can leave you so torn but with time, you heal. It’s better not to jump here and there but remain calm.
It’s also good to remember that as much as you will feel so broken inside, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel so chin up and all will be fine.
Awwwwww.. but yeah believe in yourself. Don’t be soooo attached after and move on. If it goes back, you decide but don’t hover all your life around it.
Sarah Bailey says
This is such a great post, I think it can be hard to deal with heartache, it is something that can hurt so much and is completely indescribable.
Ola @ WanderWithOla says
Wow, what an awesome read! I had been through some bad relationships (and I guess people at my age or above must have been in at least one) and it caused me having a trust issue for quite a while. Time is the best healer indeed, and it’s important to always surround ourselves with positive environment.
Krysten Quiles says
Oh yes, I’ve definitely been through my share of heartbreak. Luckily I found a man that I adore who adores me back!
Love these tips! I have dealt with many and always come out stronger than the last time.
Love the way you have aptly covered a sensitive topic!
These are great tips. Broken hearts suck, for sure, but we all need to have our experiences, embrace them and continue on once healed to experience life in a different way.
Dominique Brooks says
These are great tips for dealing with a broken heart! Most of us have gone through a bad relationship or two or more. These tips may help you get on with things instead of getting stuck. Thanks for the read!
This is such a great post – informative and helpful. Dealing with broken heart is so hard, I am glad there is a helpful post for that!
A broken heart changes the person temporarily or for permanent. But, finding the right person can heal the person. Yes, it does take the proper time to things fall in the right place again.
Geraline Batarra says
Being heartbroken is really terrible. It can eventually lead to depression, so be strong always. Always think that time heals everything.
Samantha Donnelly says
Although at the time having a broken heart is the worst thing ever, it does get easier over time and makes us stronger x
Time is your friend in these situations and it is true that every experience can be a learning experience that makes you better and wiser.
This is going to help so many people. Heartbreak of any kind – whether from breakups or death is so hard to get through. There are times when you think you’ll never recover.
Italian Trip Abroad says
Some good tips for who is in this situation. I hope to don’t come back in it! will be so depressing!
This is such a helpful post for everyone!
Having your heart broken is definitely the worst, some people have a hard time accepting it and moving on and some people get over break ups in a blink of an eye.
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Alvern @ Success Unscrambled says
It is great to know what to look for in these two types of personalities and I am also glad that there is a way out for those who may unknowingly find themselves in such a situation. It is so true that time is indeed a healer.
You are brave to share this. People in a toxic relationship often don’t feel like it’s toxic because they are blinded by the warning signs. Loving yourself is key because if you don’t, how would you know what it feels like when you experience it
How Such says
Time is the biggest healer, this is not something for just saying. It actually is. A broken heart can either make you or break you, and that’s completely on us how we tackle the situation. Concentrating on yourself is the biggest motivation!
Craig Silva says
It is so tough when your heart has been broken. You have made some great suggestions. It definitely does take time.
This article is so helpful. I have met a narcissist or two. Once you know what to look for, you can spot them a mile away.
David Elliott says
Time truly is the best healer. You need to be able to heal and accept the things in your life which have hurt you and move away from them. It takes space and time. And rushing healing doesn’t help usually. Usually creates other problems.
Liz Bayardelle says
Recovering from the end of a normal relationship is challenging, but recovering from a toxic relationship is so much worse. This is great advice!
Alexandra Cook says
Pain does mean different things for everyone. just as the management of that pain can mean many things. We have to learn to surpass these pains because these are only trials of life.
It’s difficult to have perspective while it’s happening, but time really is a great healer. Broken hearts build character and prepare you for better things.
Everything happens for a reason, and most reasons are not made visible until later. We need reminders to learn to let go and let the process unfold.
Most of us have been through a difficult relationship or a hurtful break-out, I had a few, and for me the best thing was time, be patient and give it time.
It can take a while to heal, but it is useful to keep these things in mind. Everyone is different in how we handle grief, but it helps to have an understanding of ways that can help us move on.
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A broken heart can be one of the most painful experiences of one’s life, I know. I also know, that they don’t stay broken forever. I like how you emphasized learning to love yourself as a way to get over lost love. This is crucial. It may not completely erase the feeling of loss and pain, but it will get you to the place of know that you are worthwhile.
I think every one of us (not all) have a story and experience to tell from one point of our lives. Time really is your healer, sometimes might also feel your adversary. But with the proper approach, like these great points you’ve mentioned, a broken will get there and whole again. 🙂
Ladonna Batiste says
I must say that time heals a broken heart. I believe that we heal, learn and grow from the painful experience of a breakup. Moving on from a relationship/broken heart involves going through a grief process. I enjoyed reading your post and thanks for the tips.
Becca Wilson says
A broken heart is one of those things that can sting for a while. Especially when it is your first time feeling this way, it can seem like it will last forever.
Dealing with a broken heart isn’t easy. BUT…. it will make you stronger in the long run.
This can be so hard. It’s helpful to just be there for someone, and welcome others into your life if you are hurting.
Danielle Wolter says
it can be hard to get over a breakup, but i always feel with time, it heals. i’ve had some bad ones, and they always heal 🙂
You must be very unlucky to date both a narcissist and a psychopath. I do think that you don’t have to date someone toxic to have a broken heart though. Each relationship that ends breaks hearts.
This is an interesting topic to talk about. I had a fair share of heartaches and I did not know how I went through them but I did and now I am stronger than ever.
Kami | Life with Kami says
Oh I think we’ve all been there, in that position. but we come out of it stronger than ever.
A really poignant message in this post and inspiring too. I’ll share this with my friends.
I think we’ve all had our fair share of bad toxic relationships, they way I heal is by being with ones that I love and care for me.
Beth Pierce says
It can be hard to know when you are in a bad relationship with someone until it’s over. These are good tips to keep in mind and to protect your heart.
Sara Welch says
For me, trust is such a deal breaker. You are right. If someone loses your trust, it can be hard to trust anyone in your life.
Jasmine Hewitt says
i love how you handled this topic. its something everyone either has or will, go through
Nina N says
You’re definitely right that it is not easy to recognize the toxic or harmful relationship they are persevering until the point that their limit is reached. That results to a really painful heartbreak. Relationship is a gamble but you just need to know when to leave a toxic relationship.
Erica ~ Erica Ever After says
When I got divorced my broken heart spiraled into a dangerous depression and I really didn’t see much point in living anymore. I felt so undesirable, like I would never be whole again, I got through that with prayer, counseling and great BFF. It can be a slippery slope if you are already fragile.
This is so sad but bad and hurtful relationships exist, unfortunately. But it is great that you’re resilient and learned from the experience. Amazing.
Broken heart is always hard to fix. it is ever easy to address it and to face it. Your tips are most welcome
Elizabeth | Tired Mom Supermom says
Awe, this is a very sensitive topic. Everyone deals with a broken heart differently. Thank you for writing.
Elizabeth O says
This is always a depresssing situation and not so easy to come out. You gave such good advice and meditation is also a good way to heal yourself. Thanks for writing and sharing such sensitive topic.
Pati Robins says
that is such a sound advice – the good news is time heals all the wounds
Cindy Ingalls says
Time heals all wounds and wounds all heels, or at least I like to believe that is true. It does take time to get over a breakup and see things more clearly, so being kind to yourself and keeping busy can really help.
Such a sensitive but important topic to bring up, heartache is a tough feeling to cope with
Sadly a lot of people don’t take time to heal before the jump right back into dating and ultimately end up failing at what might have been a good relationship.,
Gervin Khan says
Nice post and I love your advice. I agree that it is so hard to recover or even love and trust again to somebody if you had a bad experience from the your past relationship.
Lilac Rose says
One time in my younger years, my heart was broken by a boy. But since we were not in a relationship, it was easy. I went to the theater, watched a sob story, and cried my heart out. I had a really bad headache when I went out and my eyes were puffy. But my heart was light and I moved on.
Samantha Donnelly says
A broken heart is something we have all suffered with, this is such a great post for anyone going through this at the moment x
I can imagine that it would be hard to get away from someone like this. They are good manipulators. This is a great resource for anyone dealing with this.
Kalyan Panja says
Thanks for sharing this inspirational post.
Elena Toma says
You have great tips in your article! I honestly believe that time can heal all kind of wounds including a broken heart !
Sarah Meh says
It’s a touchy post. No doubt, time is the best healer. We must train our brains to ignore things that no longer serve.
Gladys Nava says
I love reading this blog post. Heart breaks are painful, but when you fully recovered on it. It’s a new you! Thanks for the wonderful blog post.
blair villanueva says
Time is another way for us to heal. During this moment, open yourself to be focus on things and activities you like most – travel, hobbies, etc.
You will discover a new you eventually.
This is a really really useful post. I’m a believer of “time” time does heal a broken heart
Maria M says
thanks for creating awareness, I’ve experienced heartbreak but it wasn’t a toxic relationship and I ended up marrying him so I can only imagine the pain others are going through but I do agree that time heals all wounds.
Surekha Busa says
That was really one of the hardest phase of everybody’s life. But time heals all wounds..
Ashli Ferguson says
I hate broken hears but I always tried to remember that it was teaching me something instead of hurting me!
Great advice for such a difficult thing to go through!
Yonnah M says
I absolutely love this post. I can recall the last time I felt broken hearted and trying to find my way out of that was a nightmare. Lousy glad that’s over.
Hannah Marie says
It was not easy for me. I remember feeling the hurt through my chest. It was as if my heart is really breaking into pieces.
Ughhh droken hearts are the worst!!! So hard to get over, but time really does heel everything
Time does heal wounds/broken hearts if the people deal with their emotions and do some soul searching. Be okay with being single and alone, learn from each relationship and let go of the past pain…
Nice advice to lookout for when dating a narcissist.
This is a great post, I’ve had a few broken hearts but I can safely say that without them I wouldn’t be where I am today.
Heartbreak can take a long time to overcome and it is true that time is the best healer.
Matija Antonić says
Most of the people were left broken hearted a few times, and it’s sad when one relationship makes you mistrust and not open open up to new people out of fear of being hurt again, but that happens, it’s all something that defines you as a human being. And besides when that right person comes along it will be more special.
Elyse Hocking says
It takes a lot to realise when love becomes toxic. I know I’ve learnt the hard way, life is a constant battle of life lessons and applying the new knowledge. Great post also x
Heartache is unexplainable pain. I think we are all heartbroken at least once in our life. Some people can move on some are not, and that is the worst part. it takes time to heal it. But I do believe that every person has a match made in heaven.
Learnt a lot from this sharing, yeah heart broken not easy to manage, thanks for this self love post sharing here. cheers,siennylovesdrawing
megan beaver says
Narcissists and Psychopaths are the absolute worst. They tend to wear down their partners over time and make them feel worthless. I am so glad that you addressed how to cope after the relationship ends. I agree with you so much. I truly do believe that time is the best way of dealing with a breakup.
A broken heart is a tough one to deal with. It feels like your world is coming to an end! Time is defo the best healer and surrounding yourself with good people
I understand that it is never easy but it does make you stronger and wiser
Thanks for the sharing the information with us.
Feels good to know about mending a broken heart.
it’s really though to be stronger after heartbreak. great post
Nina N says
I only had one relationship before my husband and it lasted for seven years. It hurt so badly I thought that was the end of me. However, the sun shines after darkness. Very insightful post!
Ntensibe Edgar Michael says
Wow….beautiful pointers you have brought out here, Moni! Thank you for sharing.
Brittany F. says
Great read. Time is definitely a good healer. I like that you mention believing in yourself. After a heartbreak it’s so easy to feel down on yourself or blame yourself. It’s important to work on your self-esteem to bounce back before the next relationship.
Kristy Bullard says
I think I would rather deal with any kind of physical pain than a broken heart. Time seems to help the healing process.
Hoang Vi Fessenden says
It takes a while but eventually life moves on, always keep yourself occupied because when there’s nothing to do but be sad you’ll go full throttle!
Thank you. Heart break can come in many forms other than relationships and the pointers you gave out will help as well. I appreciate it as I am currently dealing with my own
Great adivce. It can be hard to know what’s going on when you’re in a bad relationship.
Mama Maggie's Kitchen says
This is a great blog. Many people are experiencing heartache and some of them have the difficulty of moving on. This blog would really help them. Thanks for sharing.
Waren Jean Go says
I was in this relationship a year ago. I was broken in so many pieces, I don’t know how to put myself back together. Glad time indeed healed me.
Focusing on yourself and believing in yourself are so important especially when recovering from a lost love.
blair villanueva says
When I first felt this, I knew I have to feel and experience the pain in order to move on. I am happy that I am surrounded with family and good friends that motivates me to move faster!
It is so amazing to me how someone we loved so much and would do anything for, turns into someone we never want to see again at some point. How does that even happen??? It’s common though, and one person usually ends up quite bent up for a bit when it does.
Nayna Kanabar says
A lot of people in these sort of relationships are too scared to break out. You have highlighted some excellent points.
Yeah Lifestyle says
Heartbreaks are the norm of life but when it hits you, no words or action makes sense and sometimes you do reach out on the internet for help so your post is so helpful to others and will reach out to the ones in need
Hannah Marie says
This is a pretty sensitive matter to discuss. It just feels terrible to be in this type of chapter. But with a helping hand, it is going to be easy.
i really appreciate how honest and open you are talking about your feelings, because this is definitely a difficult and delicate topic!
I love your final tip. It is a part of life that shall too pass and at least we are away from danger. It’s always helpful to know we are not alone in these situations. Thanks for sharing.
Mommy Peach says
Indeed time heals all things and it is possible. I’ve had my fair share of a toxic relationship and I am really happy it ended.
OMG! I remember same month last year I’m being broken heart and I really don’ know how can I motivate myself. It’s not easy to moving forward especially when you remember the past memories it can be bittersweet but in the end I decide let to go and accept the fact that he’s not coming back anymore OMG HAHAHA! heartache s”cks.
No matter how awful or terrible a relationship is, whether its romantic, a friend, or family member, there’s always insight to take away. We must learn from these situations in order to not let history repeat itself. I’m all about the self-love before you can love others.
Aby Armenton says
I love this post. Sharing this to my bestfriend. i hope this will give her a good lift.
Binge on Basics says
These are some great tips to deal with a broken heart. Will forward to someone in need
It is true what they say that time is the best healer. It is trusting someone again that is most difficult
Sincerelee Ni says
This was such a great read , you gave some great tips. I can relate to many of them.
World in Eyes says
you have defined it so perfectly…Found it really helpful and interesting one indeed..glad you shared these tips and ways with us..