She: Why do I have to text you always? Why isn’t there any initiation from your side?
He: I have been really busy.
She: You are always busy. Sorry for bothering you.
He: I never said that you bother me. I am sorry if I have made you feel so.
She: You know what love, you have changed.
He: Love, I am really trying not to.
She: Take Care.
He: Look, I am not an insomniac like you are. I just can’t.
She: Did I ever ask you to?
He: No you never asked but you always wanted it.
She: Don’t misinterpret me. I know you have a hard life but I work too.
He: You actually never understood me.
She (hurt): If that makes you happy, then fine.
And then she stopped texting him. All because she felt she was ignored and she was tired of getting hurt. Whereas he remained confused that where he went wrong, he never wanted to hurt her.
Now………….. You must be thinking that the guy got bored with her. Believe me, she might have thought the same. Maybe his feelings vanished and he was unaware of that.
It is very natural, it happens. The thing which those two did not understand that disappeared between them was communication. He should have simply conveyed to her whatever was going on his mind but he did not open up no matter whatever the reasons had been. And she remained stubborn because it would hurt her ego too for further argument. As a result, she was hurt enough to walk away, and he kept on misunderstanding her. A story that could have a beautiful climax had a painful ending.
Look we like people, fall in love, sometimes feelings stay, sometimes it vanishes, unwillingly may be. Rollo May said in one of his quotes, “Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.”. So rather than avoiding the other person speak up whatever is going on your mind because communication can solve any problem and it gives a closure too. A closure is imperative so that every individual can grieve and afterward proceed on with their lives.
One suggestion to everyone, no matter what you feel, what you want to do just SPEAK UP! Do not keep a person hanging because it may affect them in a way where their self-confidence may get affected.
I think that is all for today on withlovemoni today for you all. Try not to hurt anyone, because not everybody is strong enough as they might claim to be.
Oh, by the way, check out David Elliott’s blog Single Dad’s guide to life because I am extremely thankful to him for the dialogues I used here above, all the credit for the dialogues goes to him and he is too lovely.
Organizingchaos 101 ( Mary Smith) says
Wow this is very insightful! I love your writing style.
Lovely article…yes speaking up.is necessary to keep a relation healthy and going…keeping the feelings pent up won’t help..
Communication is really two way….. Whatever relationship is doomed if it comes one way…..
David Elliott says
I honestly don’t know what to say here. Yes, a conversation is so important when it comes to being able to build something together. I think many things come down to value and what we value, whether it be ego, or the ability to build something. Distance makes for more fraught communication. And it makes for more easily being misunderstood.
Communication is important, yes. But if you have to ask these questions you either don’t know your partner, or you don’t read people well.
Insightful post and as others have said, it is important to communicate and make sure you are open in the relationship. Good read.
Communication is so important, in any situation. Otherwise we may regret words not spoken.
A lovely piece as always.
Communication is very important in any relationship/friendship. I really like your article.
that’s an awesome Rollo May quote you list. i definitely believe closure is so important too. Such good advise all around.
Joy at The Joyous Living
Tiffany La Forge-Grau says
Communication has to go both ways. He shouldn’t string her along if he doesn’t have any feelings anymore. She deserves someone who is going to love every moment with her, not one who’s going to ignore her and complain constantly.
I agree that it is so important to speak up and get your point across. No one will know what you have to say unless you actually say it.
Two simple dialogues convey meaningful message. I like your writing.
Julie Goodswen says
Love this original style of writing
I really, I mean really, love this post. I have seen so many relationships go down in flames due to lack of communication. Both sides are frustrated because it seems to them that the other side should see what is so obviously in front of them. So rather than talk it out, they both dig in and think, “If they can’t see this, then they don’t care about me.”
the fashion matters says
I’m all lost when it comes to giving relationship advices to my friends, but you’re totally right that speaking up is important. communication is key.
Totally agree with your thoughts on communication! It’s always good to speak up, sometimes there are misunderstandings, but in true community that will work itself out the more communicate.
Dalene Ekirapa says
Communication is so important between people especially if they are in a relationship but too bad things go when they starting losing that, hurt starts setting in.
Czjai Reyes-Ocampo says
Communication is an integral part of any relationship. Without it, there is no point for the relationship to even exist.
Jessi Joachim says
Communication is so important in any relationship. I know my husband and I work on making sure we are communicating well and it really makes our relationship work better.
Daisy Blue says
If a man wants you, he’ll call, he’ll text, he’ll cross the oceans and be there for you. Everything else is just an excuse. Stay positive!
Annette, 3 Little Buttons says
An interesting and insightful read. Communication is everything and without it, as you have written, there would be a whole lot of unresolved feelings.
Scott Gombar says
I actually went through a similar thing. The woman I dated before my now wife (over 10 years ago) would say the same thing to me. At the time I was working full time and starting a business. I was working 80+ hours per week and had a tween daughter who I saw in my spare time. It’s not always what it seems.
Tara Pittman says
Words can often be misunderstood in texts. I prefer to call or talk in person.
Aww, heartbreaking..Communication is they key to great relationship. Sometimes we are so busy to other things that we forgot give some time to the important people in our life
Good communication is key to a successful relationship; and not just romantic ones. All relationships are built on communication.
Hannah Swancott says
Agreed, communication is always key!
Alice Ainsworth says
I really love this and your writing is so beautiful! Lovely post as always!
Joan Cajic says
This is so true, communication in any relationship is really important and if not conveyed well then it ends up being misinterpreted.
Amber Myers says
Oh yes, you must communicate with your partner. I’ve been married for nearly 17 years and I’ve learned this early on.
Sarah Bailey says
Making sure you talk in a relationship and speak about the things that are niggling you is a really important thing and can make or break a relationship.
Azlin Bloor says
A very thoughtful post, Moni. And you are so right, oftentimes, people just need to talk, and so much can be resolved. I think though that this isn’t always easy, as not everyone feels comfortable to do so.
Gladys Parker says
Communication is key to every relationship–especially parents and child!
Fiona Cambouropoulos says
That conversation made me smile, it could be my kids texting boyfriends and girlfriends. Girls and boys are different with different expectations and speaking up is the only way for both parties to really know where they stand.
Jessica Taylor says
I totally agree! Communication is everything! Great post!
I agree….communication is THE KEY to a successful relationship.
Emma Riley says
Such a very insightful post. All I can say is in terms of having a good relationship is you need to talk, communication is the key for it.
Jasmine Hewitt says
i think communication is vital to any relationship. with it, you’ll thrive. without it, you’ll fail
Makes sense. Often people break up or go separate ways when they don’t communicate but it’s too late before they understand.
Dwight Alleyne says
Yes I agree that you need to speak up if you expect action. Sometimes speaking up requires boldness . But it is definitely worth it.
We always forget to check on our “strong” friends when we are the ones usually going through so much. So I have to remember that I must remind myself that I have to let others know.
Gervin Khan says
A very insightful story to read. Everyone always says that communication is the key in having a good relationship and without it your relationship will definitely becoming weak and weaker until it was broken.
Andreea Gonzalez says
Totally agree with your thoughts on communication! It’s always good to speak up, so we can avoid misunderstandings.
You write so beautifully. What an interesting read. Communication is vital in any relationship, for it to grow, you’ve got to speak up pretty often.
Andreea Gonzalez says
Totally agree with your thoughts on communication! It’s always good to speak up, so we can avoid misunderstandings,
Aiai Damigo says
when i had my first boyfriend, i dont know what to do lol, i was paranoid and keep on messaging him, and i get mad when he cant answer my message. LOL the ending it ddnt work and we broke up.
Those chats reminds of my long distance before getting married, as with distance it becomes difficult to understand each other, but thank God no matter what we were clear to work out relationship and its been 6 months now we are married.
Wendy Lemeric says
Yes! totally agree. Speak up. that’s my motto in my relationship. I never hide things, even the painful words – I speak whatever’s on my mind. I know that might not be good at times but it’s harder to keep everything inside.
Maartje van Sandwijk says
Communicatin is so important! But it can’t just come from one person. You have to work at it together!
MELANIE EDJOURIAN says
Communication is the key to all good relationships. They breakdown when communication is not very good. I’d say from incident one the female was a little abrupt – if you analyse the conversation. Both need a good chat from the sound of it.
Yeah Lifestyle says
It is so important to keep communication flowing. Without communication, it is so easy for misinterpretation to occur.
Samantha Donnelly says
Very good post, communication is the key to any relationship. No matter how trivial you think it is or how hard it is to say aloud, you have to communicate and share it with you partner.
Elizabeth Bradshaw says
Great post, these things happen and communication isn’t always clear. Thanks!
Your unique writing style captured my attention, and your message tugged at my heart. Thank you so much for sharing. I look forward to hearing more of what you have to say.
I love your blog and images you use! tx!
Love your post. Sometimes we get caught up so much in daily routine and problems, that we simply forget about communicating with the people we love!
Caitlin Campbell says
Communication is key in any relationship. Thank you for sharing this perspective.
I have serious issues with not speaking up to avoid conflict. Thank you!
Catherine Santiago Jose says
Such a very interesting story and by reading this you will learn how important communication is. I can say that without it no issues or problem resolution and no one will understand you if you are not saying that things that you need to say.
Cyndi Buchanan says
Great example! There are many times when I wish I had spoken up. I’m getting better.
Liz Siemers says
The resonates with me so much. I believe communication is the key to all relationships, and often the reason why people end up hurting each other!
The Moonchasers says
Really like your style of writing. So simple yet engaging. Communication is so crucial in any relationship, felt good reading this Moni!
You’re so right! It’s important to talk about how we are feeling with others, even if it is hard. After all, we are not mind readers.
Communication definitely is key, whether it’s to express ourselves or to tell our partners what we need from them and to hear what they need from us.
Communication is a two-way thing. I don’t think I can handle anyone in my life to treat me in that way. I do speak up when things are not right and you have to really…. before the situation go south.
I agree with all you have said here. Communication can solve any problems. We need to keep communicating in relationships/friendships.
Lovely read. I do agree that communication is key to ANY relationship. Be it a spousal one, one of friendship, or other family members. If you don’t say anything, how can anyone understand what’s on your mind? I have been with my husband for over 15 years now, do you know how we keep the fire going? We talk to each other. We listen to each other. We pay attention to each other. That’s how it works. Of course, sometimes things just go sour due to stubbornness or lack of true commitment as well on either side.
I know such moments. I also get tired of people who don’t give back. It feels so unfair. I have a been a person who actually stopped caring and texting and not even once anything changed between me and that person.
Communication is so important. Both of the scenarios up top are so relevant.
Katherine Fraser says
Communication is a huge part in any relationship.
Angela Fernando says
Communication is the key to a good relationship indeed!
Claire Justine says
Interesting read. It makes you think about how much you communicate with others and how much you make an effort with friends too.
GiGi Eats says
I speak up ALL THE TIME. My husband and I SPEAK UP to one another ALWAYS too – which is why I believe our relationship is so strong. Whatever is on our minds, WE SAY – we don’t care if it potentially hurts the other because if it’s something negative, it’s something that genuinely needs said so the problem can be fixed!
Beautifully written! I agree communication in family and loved ones is the number one key to succeed in all relationships. It’s a beautiful words to express your emotions to each other.
Alvern Bullard @ Success Unscrambled says
It is so good to take a step back and analyze what could be done to improve the situation. Our egos often get in the way of analysis and making the best of a crumbling situation. Thanks for sharing.
Hunny Bohra says
We can speak up all we want but sometimes when a guy doesn’t respond to your texts or when he doesn’t initiate something texting , it usually means he’s not interested. Atleast that’s my observation.
abby hewes says
Communication is crucial! Such a powerful and moving post with lovely art that ties in so well.
You’re so right, we all need to speak up a little more. We all struggle at times, and none of us are perfect! Great words.
I love the way you wrote this, very insightful! Speaking up is Key, everyone should have a voice in a relationship. Communication is key.
Alethea Middleton says
I think it’s interesting how much we demand from others but want to be accepted as we are. I don’t say this from a place of judgement, but personal experience. I had very high expectations of my husband early on that seemed like common sense priorities/communication. We are very different and I had to learn that sometimes we are basically speaking in two different languages.
What Corinne Did says
Communication is so important in so many aspects of life! Mistakes we made help us avoid the min the future and speak up!
Amanda Yorton says
Communication is so important in every relationship! Don’t string people along just to make yourself feel better.
Great article. Communication is so vital to maintaining a happy and healthy relationship.
Communication is very important. And sometimes we think we are speaking the same language, but often we are not.
Communication is probably one of the most important, if not THE important aspect of any successful relationship. When communication is lost, assumptions and hurt feelings arise so it is oh so crucial to learn this as soon as possible. In my marriage, thankfully, it is one of our strong suits and one that really gives us a solid relationship. Thank you for sharing this great tip!
Communication is the key to absolutely ANY relationship. Things can go wrong if people don’t hear each other out! Thanks for sharing this
gemma bell says
Love this style of writing. Communication is key! Thankyou for this post.
Its important to speak up, but also listen the other side x
Nicole Anderson | Camping for Women says
There is no doubt that effective communication forms the healthy basis of all long-lasting relationships. Both partners need to recognise the importance of this and make the time to communicate on a meaningful basis on matters important to each other.
Totally agree that communication is key. It’s really hard to initiate…but if you do, you may find out your partner feels the same way, and then you can set goals to work on problems together and ultimately become a stronger unit.
It is so important to communicate. It keeps the relationship strong.
I so agree- two way communication is so important! Hold it all in only hinders a relationship and causes damage. Thank you for addressing this important topic!
Samantha-Raising Twincesses Blog says
clear and honest communication by everyone in any type of relationship is so important!
I find this write-up so relatable to relationships and communication. Knowing when to speak up and when to hold your peace is very valuable.
This is why clear communication is so important for everyone involved.
Anosa Malanga says
Communication makes life easier and it should always be there. Most of the time misunderstanding comes because of miscommunication.
Tiffany La Forge-Grau says
Communication is so important. This is a classical example of not what was said, but what the other person heard or didn’t hear them say. There is a difference.
I think it’s important to talk in person or over the phone compared to texting. It is too hard to interpret things written over text.
This is a really neat post and so true! Communication is everything! I truly enjoyed reading!
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That person keep me hanging for no reasons. well it’s been a year and honestly it’s hard to moving forward for the reasons maybe he can message me someday “Stupid thinking!” well This is great great great post!!
Communication is key in any relationship. Without that things just wont work no matter how hard you work at it in other areas.
Chloe @callmecoco.co says
Speaking up is not always easy but definitely necessary, really good article
Communication is really the key to any relationship. It’s hard to speak up but I think listening is also another important key.
Communication. Yess. Great post! Being open and frank in the relationship is key. Good read.
Beautifully put! Better communication can solve most of the issues. Unfortunately more often than not we compensate the lack of this by putting more disciplines and rules in place.
I think relationship need to nurture and water it. Speak up, communicate in a nice way and stop all the wrong expectation. He or she both are busy and both needed love. Give more and expect less then it will be a happy ending.
communication is so very important. I can’t agree more. Thanks for this reminder.
Non stop family - Tips for family travels says
I love to follow your blog, just love your words. And, it’s really true, only words, real talking can make any king of relation working.
Very powerful. Communication is so important when it comes to anything we do. Love, health, money. We all need to start speaking up for ourselves.
Rupy Bawa says
I love the way you write. Yes communication is nessacery for keeping any relationship alive.
This is so beautifully written and I love the message of speak up! Communication is so important in a relationship.
Luna S says
I agree communication is important and has to go both ways to help the relationship work and not make one person feel like they are the only one who cares and is putting in work.
Mommy Sigrid says
A relationship between two people is a complicated yet beautiful thing. Even with my most devoted husband, there are just things that we don’t see eye to eye on. The important thing is that both people involved decide to stick it out no matter what because in the end, teammates who work together will prevail.
Geraline Batarra says
I do believe that everyone needs to speak up whenever in needs most especially if there is something important that need to tell and need to know by someone. Communication is the key for everything!
Waren Jean Go says
Yes communication is important but in this world speaking up about what you feel is a sign of weakness and neediness so some people just keep quite, like me. It’s a treacherous world after all.
Sally Adams says
Really really beautiful! So glad that I came across your blog, going to bookmark now for future inspiration!
What great advice. Speaking up is important not only in relationships but also in everyday life: work, school, traveling, and etc. Letting people know what is going on when you having trouble is very important.
Jesusa Gilliam says
Wow I love this! This is all very true, My husband I go through this from time to time. We both have our moments were we don’t want to open up, but when we do, we realize we a are arguing over something I misunderstood. Thank you for sharing.
The Panicked Foodie says
This is actually one of the things that I pride myself on. I always make sure to speak up, and so that people always know where I stand on things.
Communication is among the most complex and also the most necessary things about human relations (and couples of course!!). I’ve been studying communication for years, and I came to a conclusion, our minds are separate universes and we are trying to express those universes with one single code: language. That’s why sometimes including other codes (visual art, music, body language, symbolic acts, etc) can be very helpful! But it doesn’t ensure a complete understanding of the other… unfortunately.
Brittany Vantrease says
As an outside person looking in, I think the girl was just overreacting… I’ve been there and I’ve certainly done that. It’s tough when we feel like we’re giving our all into a relationship and it feels like the other person has given nothing, but not everyone knows how to talk their feelings or even understands when something is wrong.
So, talk before giving up and make sure that the other person has understood what you mean. Don’t be subtle or passive about it either. Say what you mean to gt the point across.
Speaking up to those to speak your feelings is so true!!! This is the only way others will understand you so you both can come to a mutual agreement and move on, or just the relief of speaking your feelings! Very important!
And this is why I prefer verbal communication to texting and email. There are so many ways text can be misconstrued. It’s so important to sit down and have a legitimate conversation. You make great points!
Annemarie LeBlanc says
This post sounds like the phrase I remember from years back which goes, “we seem to be living alone together.” With or without a distance between couples, lack of communication can destroy a relationship. I agree with you – speaking up is very important to let others know how you feel.
Fran Jorgensen says
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am a big believer in communication but sometimes we also need to make an effort and work in our relationships, it’s always easy to fall into the routine trap.
Love this post! Communication is key to any relationship and so many of us struggle with it… We all need to be brave and speak up so we can keep our relationships healthy 🙂
It’s important to say what you need in a relationship.
Moriah Ross says
Lol where was this with my last boyfriend! I really should learn how to communicate better!
its so romantic. I love this blog. Its really my day
One and Half backpacks says
Very true! I love this post and the way it is written. We had this problem at the beginning of our relationship with my boyfriend, where he did not speak very much and I thought he is not interested anymore. But we figured out how to talk to each other and how to give each other the space he needed. But first, you have to start talking…
Latte Lindsay says
Communication is key with any relationship and most people forget this. I hope this post reminds people to speak up and tell people what they are really thinking 🙂
Everything beautiful says
I enjoyed this post. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship
Lisa fucci says
I always have to tell myself that people aren’t mind readers. So I have to verbally express my feelings.
I love your post! And I agree with you and can’t stress enough how important communication is, SPEAK UP!!!!
Communication is something we struggle with. I think it’s technology. It’s not like it used to be when we were kids.
Whitney Kutch says
Communication is definitely a two-way street! It’s so imortant to speak up in any relationship.
Communication is so important, I love this message.
Karen Monica says
I can definitely relate to this. My previous relationship ended exactly this way. He chose to not speak up whatever was in his mind. I got tired of asking and waiting and finally decided to walk away. And to be honest I have no regrets because I have given him way too much chances to speak up but he just refused to do it.
Nicole Walker says
Communication is such an important aspect of any relationship. I’ve been married for two years and sometimes still struggle. Making a conscious effort to speak up is such a big point of focus for me.
Yup- speak up! Assumption makes things worse .
blair villanueva says
Speaking up no is better than suffer the consequences. Conversation is important. Me and boyfriend are both busy people, and sometimes I don’t text him for a day and two! Good understanding is also important.
I have voiced this on many occasions:Communication is everything. Although easy to say it is hard to do and I myself have also fallen short being clear about my thoughts and feelings, which is why situations like the one you wrote about happen more often than not.
Communication truly is key. Without it, relationships falter. Sometimes communication can lead to arguments, but it’s still important. I really like the quote you included.
I hate cryptic texts like that and usually I ignore them and drive up to the person, look them in the eye and talk to them straight. I don’t know and don’t want to know any other way.
Candy Rachelle says
Great post! Communication is really important to any relationship we have. We need to speak out of what’s our problems or what. It is the way to solve any problems.
I think it is very important that we talk things out and sort all our misunderstandings. Every relationship should be like this, else you will always end up hurt
Rahma Khan says
I have read a few of your posts before and just like all of them even this one was so thoughtful! Thank you so much for sharing
Pati Robins says
i just love reading your post they are always so insightful and touch so many important subjects – its good to speak and have a voice in a relationship
Kristie Cirak says
Communication can be hard for a lot of people when its out of their comfort zone with conflict. So important though.
Surekha Busa says
This is such a nice read and this story reminding you how communication is so important in one relationship.
Carol Mitchao says
I love your suggestion, thank you for sharing!
This is all very true! I have been in situations like this before when I wished a person had communicated with me. It only ends badly if you don’t. Thank you for writing this 🙂 I really needed it.
so many people suffer from mental health issues and are too scared to ask for help! It’s the next big stigma we all need to overcome <3
Happy and Busy Travels says
This is awesome! We really have to speak up! Do not be afraid!
Surekha Busa says
Love this kind of post that can enlighten our mind in different situation. Communication thru text and voice is really a different and most of the times is misunderstood by the receiver.
You bring up very good points here! Most people do not realize that they are hurting another with their actions. However, expecting for someone to be honest or open with you– that doesn’t value you in a relationship, is almost impossible.
Elizabeth O says
Communication is very important thing to keep your relationship. Sometimes there’s a miscommunication that will lead to argument, but it’s normal. This will served as a great reminder to us, thanks for sharing!
no relationship can prosper when communication is off. good article
Dana Brillante-Peller says
This post reminds me of a conversation I had with a friend years ago. Sometimes you have to be honest with yourself and those around you
John Sallie says
Student: “Master, how should I treat others?
Master: There are no others.
Hannah Marie says
Yes to speaking up! Let the other person understand what we are saying, not just say it then leave.
betzy cuellar says
As a matter of fact, communication is a transaction. In this case, it includes two people expressing how they feel.
Communication is key. I recently started a compassionate commununication course to help me speak up and better communicate my emotions.
Nayna Kanabar says
Communication is so important in any relationship as that is what keeps it going strong.
Wanda Lopez says
Well said. Communication is very important in every situation and relationship. It clear the air, connects us, brings closure and expresses our feelings and style.
Kristine Nicole Alessandra says
We were given a voice to enable us to communicate what is in our hearts and mind. Although we are encouraged to speak up, we must still do it with tact to avoid hurting others.
Yep! Lack of communication is always a recipe for disaster. I see scenarios like you described all of the time.
Communication is definitely key if you want a relationship to work. Things get misinterpreted all the time
Yes communication is always important and it needs to be from both sides otherwise things get complicated.
Excellent piece! I really love the back and forth with two fully different perspectives on the same scenario.
Sometimes is hard to speak up, sometimes is the best you can do. Love your drawings
Tiffany La Forge-Grau says
Communication is such a hard thing. Others hear from their heart not necessarily what came out of your mouth or what was written in your message. Patience and understanding.
Speak up if you’re uncomfortable about anything, not just relationships. It will be uncomfortable at first but beneficial to both sides.
Rhian Westbury says
You’re right that everyone should stand up and talk about what’s going on in their lives x
I have seen things like this happen. If we don’t communicate, we’re not giving our best in our relationship. We are hindering many things, for sure!
It is very important to communicate and participate in a relationship. It is very important to consider each other feelings.
Sarah Meh says
A good relationship can’t work without effective communication that’s why we should speak up without being afraid.
Kathryn Caric says
Love this message
Vaibhav Mehta says
Communication is the backbone of an equation anyway..so many people have distanced and gone apart just because f fragile egos and not wanting to communicate
Its so easy to misinterpret people. She just wanted him to text more often and he was probably tired or going through something internal – funny I been through this before in my relationship and talking about it and saying how you truly feel helps so they can see where each other are both hurt and coming from.
You made some excellent points in your post
I think we have a tendency to withhold how we’re really feeling to avoid hurting our partner’s feelings. In the end, neither side wins.
Enriqueta E Lemoine says
It’s so important to be able to talk and express our feelings, and hops, and fears, and make our points. It’s also very important to hear. Best.
This is the proof that communication can make or break a relationship…
Justyna Butler says
Gah!!! Such a beautiful post! communication is def number one in relationships!
Sheena Moncatar says
This post just got me thinking, how can feelings vanish? There are a lot of factors and true, communication is the key. Speaking up is all but important in keeping the relationship.
What an interesting read, reminds people to consider both perspectives as well.
Always speak up if you have something to say or the relationship won’t work out. Now that’s my motto.
Anosa Malanga says
I wish I could be as good as you! Indeed such a good message to relay as well with all the people and remind each and everyone to learn to speak up.
Angela Ricardo Bethea says
The scenarios are so sad. But yeah, really. Communication is the key to a successful relationship. If love and trust is there, but there’s no communication, it won’t last.
Michelle M says
It is definitely important to speak up and be honest in your relationships. If you don’t speak up how do you expect the other person to know what you’re thinking?
I have learned, in our marriage at least, that open and honest communication is key. We have to keep an open dialogue going with each other, otherwise we just get drowned out by the static.
blair villanueva says
Having an open communication in all kinds of relationship works. It is better to speak-up now that erupt your thoughts like a volcano.
Michele Dennis says
Yes! Speak up! Communication is key in any and all relationships, whether they are romantic, family or just friendly. Many relationships have ended simply because they never took the time to communicate and speak up…
Bonnie Benoit says
Communication is so important in a relationship. If you don’t speak up about something that is bothering you how can your partner help.
I can totally relate. I’m in a long distance relationship now. I totally believe that speaking up is the best thing to do to avoid misunderstanding.
Monique Cláudia says
Communication is the key to everything! Been working on my communication skills because I’m a really shy person and sometimes I close myself and hurt when I could just talk and find a solution to the problem.
Elle (CleverlyChanging) says
Communication is a huge breakdown in the world of relationships. I feel like there should be classes on it in elementary school through high school because most of us fall short. I also thought your advice was great especially this line “Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.”
The life of every relationship depends on how well they understand each other. Ruling out communication in a relationship is like willingly pushing your relationship off a cliff.
Yes! Silence slowly kills a relationship.
Jennifer Prince says
Text communication can be so hard sometimes! As can miscommunication between how a male and female think. We need to work on understanding each other for sure!
Ladonna Batiste says
Speaking up and having a balance in communication is so important. But when the communication isn’t balance and we are not getting what we want from the relationship, we need to know when to let go.Men and women interpret what is being said differently and it is important to make sure that we are understanding each other correctly.
Gill Trotman says
This is a very well written post. In any relationship, communication is an integral part and knowing when to walk away is critical. Communication is something each in the relationship has to work on consistently.
Very true sentiments and something that oft happens in relationships. Loss of communication. Talking out your feelings is intensely important!
Really these days I believe that every problem can be sorted by talking out things. Loss of communication can sometimes do serious damage
love faith more says
Yes communication really matters. Communication is composed of two or more people not only by yourself. So they should participate and express all their thoughts too.
Elizabeth O says
You write beautifully. I enjoyed this.
Becca Wilson says
I totally agree with this! No matter how you feel – good or bad – you definitely should be able to speak up about it.
Bindu Thomas says
Communication is very important in any relationships. Loss of communication will be kill that relation.
If there is no communication then a relationship can’t survive. And text messages are the worst, you can read a lot of things into them that are just in your imagination.
Gemma Goes Global says
Yes, it’s so important to speak up in all of your relationships! Love your writing style!
Communication is key and the power is your voice. Never be afraid to speak up. Thank you for the well-written post! xo, Suzanne
i iwsh it were easy to just speak my mind. tell the person how horrible he or she is being not to make him or her feel bad but to actually save him or her from his or her own self-destruction. i am still learning.
Becca Talbot says
I have been in some very relateable situations to those you’ve mentioned above. Communication is definitely key x
I’d must check with you here. Which is not something I normally do! I take pleasure in reading a put up that may make folks think. Additionally, thanks for permitting me to remark!
Liz Bayardelle says
I totally agree…you can’t overstate the importance of communication. Whether it’s a friend or a romantic partner, it’s the biggest thing!
I couldn’t agree more! I always try to speak my mind weather it’s positive or negative and not just leave a person hanging.
World in Eyes says
Yeah do agree with you speaking up openly is the first and foremost need of any relationship..secrets and inexpressiveness badly effects relationship…well do relate this story it is fairly wrong what she did…yeah she got hurted but not because of him but just because of herself too..and he also should have tried to understand her too..glad you shared this with us..great work though..