Stereotypes about working women: A Personal Experience.

I was going through an article on, that what are the stereotypes about working women, two points caught my eyes because I can relate to them. Which are:

1: Women With Ambitions Are Somehow Of Bad Character And Attract Unnecessary Attention From Men.

2: Careers For Women Are Also Pre-defined – Teaching, Nursing, Medical Doctors. Not Acceptable – Journalism, TV, Field Reporting, Etc.

Well in my case I am from a small town in West Bengal. I don’t stay at my hometown anymore because of my career.
In 2017 in the same hometown of mine I started facing some issues regarding bank, so I asked for help from an almost influential person. Whereas, when it came to the solution of that problem the person whom I approached ofcourse told everyone he was helping me because I was spotted with him on our way to the bank.

He couldn’t help obviously. So I gave up on him. On the very next day he called me up and then used these words, “Women are not fit enough for journalism and tv” (I used to work in a channel at that point of time) and he didn’t help me because that could have affected his family’s reputation. I didn’t answer him back because I didn’t want to get into any argument. Later on, on my gutts I solved that issue.

After some days he texted and apologised for his words.

Later on he started discussing my work related stuff with me.

One fine day he told me “Ladies who work don’t have a good character and you can easily sleep with people to reach somewhere”. I replied with a smiling smiley and blocked him from everywhere. Tbh that day, I wanted to break his face. Because during my entire career it was known by people who worked with me that I had been a hard worker.

Well, to be straight forward enough, ladies don’t need to sleep around to reach somewhere. That is what some people don’t understand due to their cheap mentality.

There are more stereotypes. If you have male friends, you don’t have a character. You work late at night you are characterless. These issues are not only faced by ladies in cities but small town girls mostly face it.

Many girls from my hometown or other small towns come to me till date with same issue which they face in their area because these girls dared to work in a challenging field. Some are my juniors. Some know me somehow.

Only suggestion which I have always given and I still give is: An empty mind is devil’s workshop and people who are unable to achieve anything will always criticise you.
There are two major reasons for their way of thinking these stuff are: either they never had a working lady in a challenging field at home or they couldn’t take advantage of you.
In my case it was the second thing.
Ladies never let these people get into your mind. If you are truly careeristic ignore it. Your career should matter to you not what these people say.

It’s your life be daring enough to take your own decisions and fight for it. Because ladies always remember you are worth it.

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63 thoughts on “Stereotypes about working women: A Personal Experience.”

  1. THere are some stereotypes for sure about working women. I love that you’re bringing light to them. It’s important people know that the stereotypes are just that, fake, based on old times and possibly a few bad apples out of a bunch. Not true.

  2. its honestly sad and pathetic that some people actually think that way. I’ve dealt with a lot of stereotypes too, but I’ve also noticed how satisfying it is to hear someone say I can’t do something and then turn around and do it. This is a great article and I love the points you made.

  3. Uh, I’m nervous about prejudices about women. Fortunately, I have no people in my environment who have these prejudices. I would do the same as you did – blocking him and forgetting.

  4. This seems to be pretty accurate. I could not agree more to what you have mentioned. Well, a working woman, ambitious, hard working and loving is the most that I know.

  5. Hi Monidipa once again you’ve nailed it head on. Such a beautiful, simple yet powerful article. It is very unfortunate that women face these issues. But by writing about it, it helps others speak out. I have also faced issues as such. And I cant say it was easy, in fact I wanted to leave my field of work. But then I stood up and decided to be who ai want to be, regardless of immaturity and sexism.

  6. Emotional read for me. Though times have changed. Thoughts of men are changing too still this unfortunate reality exists. You have set an example by teaching such small minds a hard lesson.

  7. I applaud your words! Yes, you show determination and the woman’s path to fulfilling their own career is so hard and there are so many prejudgements and stereotypes is disgusting!! Women shall keep in mind that we need to fight that together, they try to turn us one against the other, but there shouldn’t be competition among women, but solidarity because we all are victims in the disgusting system.

  8. cleverlychanging

    In many ways us women are use to debunking myths about us. We have to find a support network and fight to achieve our goals and dreams. I’ve seen so many women in my lifetime achieve success so I remind myself of their wins an fight hard to chart my own path.

  9. I really get pissed off when I hear about stereotypes that tend to speak ill about women, and especially working women. But again, it’s so true that they’re taken to be attracting ill attention from men. Very immature,right?

  10. I couldn’t agree more! Its a pity that even in these times such assumptions and sexism exist, considering how much contribution a woman can make to the economy. It simply says a lot about them. I am glad you got rid of the ‘friend’

    XOXO Fiona •

  11. Geraline Batarra

    This is such a nice post and I enjoy reading it. I hate some men thinking that a women should stay at home taking care the household chores,the kids and be a wife to their husband. But I proved them wrong because I do believe that woman can be a wife, a mother and of successful career woman at the same time. Woman should be united as one to show them that woman is powerful than what they think.

  12. Some of the stereotypes actually come from the same people forcing women to be like what they’re implying about. For example, I know an old ex-friend who would always keep her daughters grounded for a lot or no reason, but then criticizes them because they’re too “weak to stand up”. I mean, there’s always a root cause for those stuff.

  13. This is a great article and brilliant of you to raise awareness. It is sad that stereotypes even exist to be honest, why can’t we be who we are and do what we do and that be okay.

  14. Its a great article to raise awareness. I have heard many of these stereotypes but I personally believe each person makes themselves. It is such a sad world where people can not just be themselves without being judged or sterotyped.

  15. The first one hits home. It doesn’t mean that if you are ambitious, you are already scheming and underhanded. You can just be driven, but you are also governed by personal values and abide by your morals.

  16. Wow. You raised so many valid points. I do see so many people being unnecessarily judgemental about career-oriented women. Its 21st century and they seem to be stuck in the stone ages!

  17. That truly is sad that people today would have such an attitude. Each person is different with different aptitudes and abilities. No one should be forced into any kind of work. In addition, the sleeping around comment is awful and ugly. That’s just horrible.

  18. I completely feel you on these points. I went to grad school for journalism and worked afterwards and it was definitely hard as a woman to break some of those stereotypes. I’m happy more and more spotlight is happening in this climate about these injustices.

  19. Even though women have come a long way, this shows there is still a ways to go. When traveling, I try not to impose my viewpoints on other culture. However, I do believe that societies benefit from women’s full participation in them.

  20. It’s great that you shared this post and hope it can enlighten people to start considering women with equality. Times have changed and any stereotype against women isn’t acceptable – be it in the past present or future.
    About time !

  21. Thank you for sharing your experience. I also think you are doing something right because people are seeking you out for advice. I also enjoyed the artwork.

  22. Agree on this 100%! I am an engineer by training, and I encountered so many stereotypes it was disgusting. Men used to tell me I got good grades because I was pretty. Or that I dressed nicely to get attention. Your post reminded me of a really great commercial put out by Pantene shampoo, that shows men and women doing the exact same thing, but different adjectives are used to describe their actions. Boss vs bossy, persuasive vs. pushy, dedicated vs. selfish, neat vs. vain, smooth vs. show-off. It’s a really great commercial, and one that has stuck with me all these years. Thank you for talking about such an important issue.

  23. Great blog. It’s sad how it’s 2018, and these stereotypes still exist…but they do. We as woman need to stick together and keep our voice strong.

  24. I love that we live in a time that is recognizing the hurtfulness of stereotypes and breaking them down. I hope things continue to get better from here.

  25. I am glad to have lived in countries where women are not stereotyped and can have whatever career they wish. In my journalism uni there were mostly girls studying, bare any men.

  26. I feel that any working woman or career-oriented woman each have a personal decision to make in regards to the type of job she will work and the duties it entails. There are undoubtedly many stereotypes in the workplace and often a disparity when it comes to women in the work field.

  27. Women are paid less than men for the same type of job. It’s so sad to see that we are still facing in-equality in today’s world!

  28. In my opinion, these people who often stereotypes means they had personal experience about it (like sleeping with co workers, etc.) which questions their character.

  29. A standing ovation to you really. M too from WB and have faced similar issues everywhere. Right from BTech to PhD I got to hear such brooding comments. If you topped the batch, you get to hear that she mugged it all up, doesnot have a single knowledge blah blah blah,,,, in the workplace too… and where not… we just ignore…. and then I started reflecting…. answering back…. but these guys are like too dumb to understand sarcasm too…. so I just started saying blatantly on face….pointing it out that it is them who are at “trying to take advantage of the situation to get the name without working”… thanks for bringing this up… only on 8th March they seem to respect women and rest 364 days they are just making up for the disrespecting part.

  30. I’m sorry that anyone would make you feel so belittled. I’m glad that you had the courage to fight for what you believe is right instead of giving into the stereotype. I’ve been lucky that all of the women I’ve known have been hard workers and some have even been the main bread winner of the family, but that’s not to say that all women are hard workers and also that women aren’t.

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